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Symptoms of disease - pain when defloration
Defloration (lat. de - the destruction, removal + flos, floris - flower, youth, virginity) is a violation of the integrity of the hymen. As a rule, defloration is made at the first sexual intercourse; in rare cases, the hymen can stretch out and stay intact after one or more sexual acts.
Traumatic defloration
If the sexual act is being committed roughly (for example, in a condition of alcoholic intoxication or under rape), then you can deep and painful breaks are not only hymen, but also the mucous membrane of the vagina, and sometimes and the perineum.
Unnatural defloration
- The unnatural defloration is the defloration, which was not in the first sexual contact with a man. This defloration may occur at the rough pelvic exam, masturbation, deep petting, as a result of inaccurate gymnastic exercises or other injury genital organs, when lesbian sex, etc.
"Sometimes the hymen is missing at birth.
- In addition, there is an artificial defloration - elimination of the hymen surgically for health reasons or for their own wishes of the patient.
Many women are afraid to start sexual life, considering that the rupture of the hymen is always accompanied by pain. Many men, not seeing the blood on the sheet in the first wedding night, decide that the bride was not a virgin. And very few people know how to behave during the first sexual intercourse, to defloration passed as painlessly as possible, and what to do if you break the hymen at once does not work.
Causes of pain when defloration:
Hymen - fold of mucous membrane of the vagina, which closes the entrance to it and is located in 2-3 inches of the small lips of pudendum.
Hymen may have a different thickness, the shape and elasticity. There is an opinion that with age, elasticity decreases: in the age of 18-20 hymen is well stretched, however, after 30 years, 80 percent of elasticity is lost. However, this hypothesis convincing confirmation is not received, so do not be afraid to lose her virginity and in adulthood.
For most women, the hymen is not linked, which allows menstrual discharge of to freely withdraw. In rare cases occurs imperforate hymen, which becomes the reason of the absence of menstruation and requires surgical correction.
Before the first sexual intercourse hymen performs a protective function. The women in the rate (with the exception of the menstrual period) the environment in the vagina acid, which prevents colonization undesirable representatives of flora. At the same time, the girls environment in the vagina alkaline, so for the prevention of hiv this additional protection is required.
At first sexual intercourse, as a rule, the hymen is broken, what is the origin of the pain and bleeding. To especially severe pain when defloration may lead peculiarities of structure and innervation hymen, as well as the inflammatory process in the vagina. Pain pi defloration little or no, if in pleven initially has a rather large hole, which allows the penis. By the way, in such a woman can be "losing virginity" only during childbirth
Which diseases there is pain when defloration
The symptoms of pain when defloration:
As a rule, first sexual intercourse for women is accompanied by pain and bleeding. Pain in defloration can be very strong, but may be absent at all, but the most common intermediate variants. The intensity of the pain depends on the peculiarities of the structure of the hymen, and because of the psychological mood of the woman and the conduct of her male partner. According to statistics, 30% of the virgins of the beginning of sexual life is not accompanied by pain.
Contrary to traditional views, bleeding is not a mandatory attribute of the first sexual experience - in 10% of cases it does not arise. Hymen some women with a birth is absent, in others it has a large hole, so that with the introduction of the penis gap is not happening, and not always in pleven many vessels. However, most often the bleeding is there, and it lasts from 1 to 7 days.
When to consult a doctor?
First of all, you should consult a physician before the first sexual intercourse - it checks to see You on the subject of infections of the reproductive system and will give advice on contraception.
After defloration should also visit a gynecologist, to ensure that there are non-physiological injuries and diseases of the cervix, as well as screened on the subject of infections.
In rare cases, the consequences of defloration can be dangerous for the health of the woman. You should immediately consult a doctor if:
- bleeding is a very strong and/or fails within a week;
- there were purulent or foul-smelling vaginal discharge, fever;
- sexual intercourse was unprotected and subsequently there was a delay of menstruation.
Another case is when you need medical assistance - unsuccessful attempt of first sexual intercourse. Because of the peculiarities of the structure of the hymen or inappropriate actions of partners sometimes to begin sexual life is not easy. In such a situation, gynaecologist can indicate the cause of the failure and give recommendations.
Note!
The average age of the world, in which the girls is defloration - 17 years
- The Czech Republic - 15 years
- Germany- 17 years
- Portugal - 17 years
- Italy - 16,6 years
- The United States - 17 years
- Ukraine - 16 years
- France - 16 years
- Mexico - 16 years
- Iceland- 15 years
- China- 17 years
- Britain - 18 years
- Pakistan- 20 years
- African countries - from 10 to 20 years depending on the tribe
- Russia - 17,2 years
However, gynecologists increasingly fix cases of loss of innocence in 11-12 years (from 4 to 9 per cent of the examined girls of that age according to different data). The study was carried out by the company - manufacturer of contraceptives.
Helpful tips!
1. Whether the woman pleasure at the first sexual intercourse?
Such cases were observed. The first sexual intercourse uncomfortable for a woman. In addition, when you break the hymen woman experiences pain, because of which the other sensations. During the second and third intercourse appearance of sweet sensations is already possible (provided that the psyche of the woman has not been traumatized by the male impolicy). An important influence on the appearance of the woman's sexual feelings is and experience of the man, his ability to caress her.
2. If a woman can stay not-deflower after the first sexual intercourse?
Such cases are many. There are two reasons - or too extensible hymen, or, on the contrary, a very solid, break through that at one time man is capable of. Sometimes extensible hymen is stored before delivery, in spite of regular sexual life. On the firm virgin plehve man can "stand" member of the all night and never break it. There are facts, when a man falls in advance dissect hymen scissors (to make cuts), and then complete defloration sexual member.
3. In no circumstances should be the first sexual intercourse?
The mandatory conditions of first sexual intercourse is a mutual consent of the partners, the use of contraceptives (condom), a bed, a complete privacy. Time plays no role. Some believe that the night is the best time for the beginning of a sexual life (because the woman in the darkness less shy man), but it not absolutely so. The day a man and a woman less tired, and the sexual act will take place under the supervision of view, that will allow to lower hurt a woman. At that it can just close your eyes.
5. Should it be in the first sexual intercourse caress the woman?
Some sexologists believe that this should not be done, as the pain in defloration still will not allow a woman to reach orgasm as a result of caresses. But the Sexperta is a proven way of, a beneficial influence on the occurrence in the future, women positive feelings associated with sexual intercourse.
So, when a man and a woman lay in bed, a man must fondle woman's erogenous zones (the nipples of her breasts, inner thighs, clitoris). It is highly desirable to continue to caress the clitoris until she "finish ". But after some time the man should lie down on a woman and, gently holding her against him, careful to make defloration. Such a woman in the future will be good to perceive affection, will be passionate.
6. In what position should be made defloration?
In the woman on her back.
7. It is recommended to do before the first sexual intercourse, the use of the "for courage" of alcohol?
Recommend you not to drink alcoholic beverages in general. But if for you it is "not really", then you can have a drink with a girl before the first sexual act champagne (200 g sip), - it relieves nervous tension, improve sexual sensitivity and reduce the feeling of shame.
8. Whether it is necessary to use at first intercourse condom?
Be Sure To. It protects women from unwanted pregnancy, from getting sexually transmitted diseases and from penetrating into the gaps hymen various infections. Even if the partners - a husband and wife, and if it is known that they are not sick, and the pregnancy is desired, then a condom is required.
The fact is that prior to the beginning of a sexual life of the vagina girls has the highest level of purity, because (with the observance of all rules of personal hygiene) , it has not penetrated certain types of bacteria. Backward in sexual matters, men often do not wash the penis in the most careful way, as a result of which could put in the genital tract of women the infection. Are especially sensitive to it breaks hymen.
In addition, the poor hygiene of the penis in the area of his head under the foreskin accumulates smegma (the remains of the urine and sperm), which has a carcinogenic effect, i.e. it can cause cancer.
9. What is the best girl's age for the first sexual intercourse?
18-20 years. In this age of the hymen is well stretched, and with her tears of a woman is less than the total of blood. With the age of the hymen thickens, its elasticity is lost and becomes difficult. In the age of 23-24 years loss of elasticity of the hymen is 30%, at the age of 30 years - 80%. Therefore, if a girl starts a sexual life in 25-30 years and later, when defloration possible bleeding. But the matter is not only in a greater blood loss, but also in the physical pain rupture the hymen.
10. If a girl is a virgin and is afraid to have sex, what it was she afraid of?
She is afraid that she will be hurt, that there will be new problems (for example, a broken condom), that the husband would blame her that she married is not a virgin.
11. As you can deprive her virginity so, to cause her the least pain and to the mud was at a minimum?
- It is necessary that the girl was psychologically ready to become a woman, not to be afraid one more time to go through the pain in order to, in the end, to get pleasure from sex.
- It is necessary that nothing could hinder the process - i.e., time enough, you are the same, but the door is locked. Phones off. Before sex, you can drink a glass of champagne (or wine) - fears of a little bit away and the excitement will increase.
- You've got to bring her - gently caressed her with half an hour (neck, ears, chest, belly, legs, clitoris, and etc. - the tongue, lips, and hands. Do not hurry. This will give her a positive mental attitude at first sexual intercourse, open up and expand the vagina, stand out the grease. In addition, the initiation of blood ejected the pain of the substance.
- When the girl gets excited then carefully and slowly bring in her penis. Start with small amplitude of movements, gradually - deeper and deeper and deeper. At the same time caress her lips, smooth hands. Watch for her reaction. When the hymen torn, as you would "fail" a little deeper. At this point, it may scream, because it breakthrough - hurts more than the previous frictions.
- The duration of the sexual intercourse (without affection for the initiation of the girls) - about 2 minutes. No more necessary, because it will still be painfully. As soon as you felt the hymen tears, make a few more frictions and come out of the girl.
"Better to continue a day or two. During this time the vagina of the girl a little healed (that is not too long, and will heal), and the second time it will not be hurt. The second and third intercourse does not need to be strongly delay (not more than 10-15 minutes), let the girl gets used gradually.
"If the first time to break the hymen failed, all the same duration shall not exceed 2-3 minutes. The second time you can do a bit longer, and so forth, until tear.
"Don't do her cunnilingus immediately following the deprivation of her virginity.
- Opinion about the postures to defloration contradictory. The most popular posture - the girl on his back with his legs near his chest. Acceptable posture - cancer. By the way, in the latter case, the rupture of the hymen cross, and not longitudinal, that is good. Eastern philosophy is also recommends that this position.
12. Do I need my virginity for marriage?
Our opinion - no. For example, a guy and a girl wants to get married after a relatively long period of relations (a year and a half-two). They know each other well in almost all that you need in a marriage, the nature, addiction, reliability, household skills, etc. But because sexual compatibility is not on the last place! Why in bed, they must be for each other cats in a bag?
Which doctor should I contact if there is a pain when defloration
- Gynecologist
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